BALANCE IN PARENTING YOUNG ADULTS
Parenting the young adults is one of the most demanding jobs in the nurturing of your children. The immediate and massive changes which take place in the initial phase of the adulthood shakes the person of a child entirely and trembles one’s faith in him and his abilities. We should take ultimate care of the following some points in taking care of the children of this age:
Let them be what they want to be
Young adults’ nature should be understood and they should be treated accordingly. After getting the child’s nature and talents, support him keeping in mind his skills. He should not be pressurized to accept such a thing in which you are interested and he is not. Firstly understanding should be there; you should understand him and his wishes and one thing should be kept in mind that your child can do better if he chooses a profession according to his will as compared to the one you wish them to opt. His thinking style may be different from yours but you could encourage him instead of being stuck to your opinion.
Boost up your child’s self-esteem
Your way of thinking about your child can change his mind and your personality along with your thoughts can change his views, feeling, thoughts, ideas and even his behavior. Make him be sure that he can do better than you and show him by various means that how much you are expecting from him. Show your trust in him and his capabilities regarding fulfilling your expectations. He will then get confidence and thus his self-esteem could be boosted up.
Set limits and be consistent
The way you keep expectations and make him feel about it, you should make him also feel of such important limits that should not be crossed. A child should be allowed to do each and everything but it should be within limits. Circle is to be around him to bind and it could be done by setting some rules and regulations. It should be consistently observed that the individual follows the right direction. To make him obey your rules you should also be constant nature. If you would change your mind and decision related to him then he would definitely be affected.
Be a good role model
Child would learn, intentionally or unintentionally, from your personality. Be careful about your own self first then you could be capable to guide him. Your each and every habit, your ideas, your way of thinking, your way of walking, your way of dealing with people inside home and outside home and many other things. If you do not obey your elders then you should not expect it from your child either.
Be flexible and willing to adjust your parenting style
You might face some sort of difficulty in adjusting with your child but you have to try to adjust with him. Otherwise you won’t be able to make the child perfect one and a confident one. Confrontations and hindrances would sprout but bear with it for the long run. Do not make your child the victim of generation gap and rather accept the changes which have taken place in the generation your child belong to.
Provide a supportive and loving environment
Surrounding has a great effect on kids. Environment provided to the child should be quite favorable and pleasant; automatically his moral standard would be raised with him. And it would be possible if you provide him a friendly environment. Frankness creates great understanding between parents and children. Child would easily share his problems and his desires and his point of view about things. The way he would describe things to you will be the result of your environment provided to him.
Set reasonable financial parameters
Child should be aware of your status and earning capability. He should be set free but after letting him know of the problems that would be faced by him if he crosses the limits. Mentally he, thus, can prepare himself and won’t bother you by demanding high leveled things.
Listen without judgment
When your child comes to you and discusses something then before giving judgmental decision, listen to him first carefully and with all your ears. Try to find the solution to the problems or think about the alternatives rather than crying over the spilt milk.